Post by trisho on Jan 16, 2022 23:38:16 GMT
Hi Guys. Just wanted to share something with you that has left a bad taste in my mouth!
In the early 1990s, I went along to an ELO Part11 Concert in York, England. At the time I was working for Yorkshire Life Magazine. My Editor suggested I write a piece on Mik Kaminksy, as he was a Yorkshire man. From the Concert Brochure, I obtained their Agent’s phone number. I rang Mik the following day. Within 2 or 3 minutes of talking to him, all thoughts of a ‘Story’ went!! We had a 3 hour phone call, then another 2 hour call. Mik had asked me to meet up (we NEVER did) once they had finished their Tour. He promised to ring me. He and I got on like ‘a house on fire’. I, maybe wrongly, held out hopes for Mik and I getting to know each other. We are the same age and liked all the same things, and Muck was flirty and made it quite clear he’d like to meet up with me!! These phone calls were DEFINITELY not your usual phone calls!! He was just lovely, kind, funny, everything you’d want from a man, even if it was to just be ‘FRIENDS’. At the time, I did wonder what it was that Mik wanted from me.
However, I was shortly after offered a job with a British Aristocrat, which came with a cottage, and I couldn’t turn it down. But I had to have a Silent phone number, and in the move, I lost Mik’s number. I again rang the Agent, but this time was told to write to Mik via them, and they would pass it on. I never got a response. I found this odd as Mik’s behaviour with me was NOT one of that of a ‘Fan’.
Fast forward 30 years. I caught a glimpse of the early ELO on YouTube last year, and wondered how MIK had fared. I read about ‘The Orchestra’ and ‘Violinski’ and tried for 9 months to find a way of getting a message to him.
, purely to see how he had fared, hoping he had remembered me. I even hoped we could become friends again. Now, I don’t want anybody thinking I’m some kind of ‘Stalking Fan’ !!! If I was it would be Jeff that would be in my sights !! Lol (He’s not!!). MIK has NOT aged well and as I have absolutely NO designs on him other than as an old friend. I have my OWN money and success (Im a successful Author) I wanted NOTHING from Mik other than to say hello, see what he was up to etc. purely as FRIENDS (I live in Australia - the other side of the world from him!!) Had he escaped the Pandemic, what was he doing in life etc etc. NOTHING MORE!!
Eventually I came across a ‘friend’ of Miks and he kindly messaged Mik to accept my friend request in FB and view my message. It took Mik a few months to finally accept, and he sent me not even 2 lines, just telling me where he lives (Apperley Bridge in Yorkshire.) Pleased I had finally got in touch with the Man (I couldnt have cared less about any success he had. I have enough of my own!!) Naturally, I sent back a response to his short email, recounting those lovely conversations we’d had. I also told him that as it had been so long ago, I hoped he remembered me. That I was not just a ‘fan’ (as I said, if that was the case, it would be Jeff I’d spend 9 months trying to contact - which I havent, obviously!!). Anyway, I received, from that lovely, kind and funny man from 30 years ago, a nasty, accusatory, short message, basically calling me a ‘liar’ and that he found my suggestion of a ‘FRIENDSHIP, STRANGE’. Naturally I was very hurt. I replied, asking him (whilst still saying that it was a long time ago, and if he didn’t remember, thats all he had to say!!’) I reminded him that being ‘nice’ to people, surely, should be something that he, and the likes of him in such a position, should be to EVERYONE. After another NASTY message from him, I finally asked him where that lovely, kind man I’d known in the 90s had gone. What had turned him into this horribly mean and nasty old man!! I didnt get a reply, but a HEART was added to my last message to him. He’s since blocked me. Thats fine. I certainly dont want to speak to him again.
The moral of this story is, that no matter WHO they are, or have been as in Kaminsky’s case, CHOOSE YOUR FRIENDS CAREFULLY!!
In the early 1990s, I went along to an ELO Part11 Concert in York, England. At the time I was working for Yorkshire Life Magazine. My Editor suggested I write a piece on Mik Kaminksy, as he was a Yorkshire man. From the Concert Brochure, I obtained their Agent’s phone number. I rang Mik the following day. Within 2 or 3 minutes of talking to him, all thoughts of a ‘Story’ went!! We had a 3 hour phone call, then another 2 hour call. Mik had asked me to meet up (we NEVER did) once they had finished their Tour. He promised to ring me. He and I got on like ‘a house on fire’. I, maybe wrongly, held out hopes for Mik and I getting to know each other. We are the same age and liked all the same things, and Muck was flirty and made it quite clear he’d like to meet up with me!! These phone calls were DEFINITELY not your usual phone calls!! He was just lovely, kind, funny, everything you’d want from a man, even if it was to just be ‘FRIENDS’. At the time, I did wonder what it was that Mik wanted from me.
However, I was shortly after offered a job with a British Aristocrat, which came with a cottage, and I couldn’t turn it down. But I had to have a Silent phone number, and in the move, I lost Mik’s number. I again rang the Agent, but this time was told to write to Mik via them, and they would pass it on. I never got a response. I found this odd as Mik’s behaviour with me was NOT one of that of a ‘Fan’.
Fast forward 30 years. I caught a glimpse of the early ELO on YouTube last year, and wondered how MIK had fared. I read about ‘The Orchestra’ and ‘Violinski’ and tried for 9 months to find a way of getting a message to him.
, purely to see how he had fared, hoping he had remembered me. I even hoped we could become friends again. Now, I don’t want anybody thinking I’m some kind of ‘Stalking Fan’ !!! If I was it would be Jeff that would be in my sights !! Lol (He’s not!!). MIK has NOT aged well and as I have absolutely NO designs on him other than as an old friend. I have my OWN money and success (Im a successful Author) I wanted NOTHING from Mik other than to say hello, see what he was up to etc. purely as FRIENDS (I live in Australia - the other side of the world from him!!) Had he escaped the Pandemic, what was he doing in life etc etc. NOTHING MORE!!
Eventually I came across a ‘friend’ of Miks and he kindly messaged Mik to accept my friend request in FB and view my message. It took Mik a few months to finally accept, and he sent me not even 2 lines, just telling me where he lives (Apperley Bridge in Yorkshire.) Pleased I had finally got in touch with the Man (I couldnt have cared less about any success he had. I have enough of my own!!) Naturally, I sent back a response to his short email, recounting those lovely conversations we’d had. I also told him that as it had been so long ago, I hoped he remembered me. That I was not just a ‘fan’ (as I said, if that was the case, it would be Jeff I’d spend 9 months trying to contact - which I havent, obviously!!). Anyway, I received, from that lovely, kind and funny man from 30 years ago, a nasty, accusatory, short message, basically calling me a ‘liar’ and that he found my suggestion of a ‘FRIENDSHIP, STRANGE’. Naturally I was very hurt. I replied, asking him (whilst still saying that it was a long time ago, and if he didn’t remember, thats all he had to say!!’) I reminded him that being ‘nice’ to people, surely, should be something that he, and the likes of him in such a position, should be to EVERYONE. After another NASTY message from him, I finally asked him where that lovely, kind man I’d known in the 90s had gone. What had turned him into this horribly mean and nasty old man!! I didnt get a reply, but a HEART was added to my last message to him. He’s since blocked me. Thats fine. I certainly dont want to speak to him again.
The moral of this story is, that no matter WHO they are, or have been as in Kaminsky’s case, CHOOSE YOUR FRIENDS CAREFULLY!!