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Post by eloneen on Jan 23, 2018 1:49:13 GMT
Oh, no problem admitting feeling superior to others at times. I learned to understand why I felt this way. Rare it was ego. Insecurity and/or not being understanding and mean. The problem is that in my case I'm not sure it's insecurity, I'm afraid it's plain and simple feeling superior at times (not to everyone, of course, but to many). Not ego, just thinking you are more intelligent. I know that by saying this I'm commiting sincericide and making myself hatable because who likes arrogant people? But at least I'm being totally honest and admitting a failure that not many would dare to admit and that I know I have to address. I think we all harbor those feelings of superiority to a certain degree, but as long as they are not universal and permanent, it could actually be accurate and healthy, in my opinion. We all have different strengths and we continue to grow and learn as long as we live, some more than others, and we need each other. Those who recognize this live well and thrive in the give and take of community with other people. But one person can be superior in terms of patience and kindness and know it, another in terms of physical beauty, another in terms of intelligence or courage. I think it's when a person has a permanent and universal sense of superiority that it truly becomes a problem.
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Post by BSJ on Jan 23, 2018 1:54:55 GMT
I just went back to check the label that goes with my type, and it made me smile. It's Mediator. I copied it here, and I think it's pretty accurate for me. "Mediator personalities are true idealists, always looking for the hint of good in even the worst of people and events, searching for ways to make things better. While they may be perceived as calm, reserved, or even shy, Mediators have an inner flame and passion that can truly shine. Comprising just 4% of the population, the risk of feeling misunderstood is unfortunately high for the Mediator personality type – but when they find like-minded people to spend their time with, the harmony they feel will be a fountain of joy and inspiration." Some of you can attest to that part about feeling misunderstood...I worry, I over-analyze, I over-explain. You all are some of my" like-minded people." *sniff sniff" Thanks, guys! Well, thank you very much! Feel the same. Mediator is you!
Ya. No question about cheap wine!
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Post by eloneen on Jan 23, 2018 1:55:12 GMT
Helmut83 . Me, and am pretty sure others, know you're arrogant. And, know you're a bright boy. The thing is, is that your arrogance doesn't have you living in a fantasy and hallucinating an unrealistic sense of self, because it's not an insecure arrogance. You don't need to be noticed more than anyone of us lowly peasants. And, you are genuinely interested in others. It’s not all about you. Admitting your faults makes it easier to get along and for the two-headed monster not having to chase your ass down every day. *Phew* I needs a drinkie. Wow, I think someone in the US with the initials DT should read this!
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Post by BSJ on Jan 23, 2018 1:56:20 GMT
The problem is that in my case I'm not sure it's insecurity, I'm afraid it's plain and simple feeling superior at times (not to everyone, of course, but to many). Not ego, just thinking you are more intelligent. I know that by saying this I'm commiting sincericide and making myself hatable because who likes arrogant people? But at least I'm being totally honest and admitting a failure that not many would dare to admit and that I know I have to address. I think we all harbor those feelings of superiority to a certain degree, but as long as they are not universal and permanent, it could actually be accurate and healthy, in my opinion. We all have different strengths and we continue to grow and learn as long as we live, some more than others, and we need each other. Those who recognize this live well and thrive in the give and take of community with other people. But one person can be superior in terms of patience and kindness and know it, another in terms of physical beauty, another in terms of intelligence or courage. I think it's when a person has a permanent and universal sense of superiority that it truly becomes a problem. See. Mediator.
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Post by Helmut83 on Jan 23, 2018 2:07:44 GMT
Helmut83 . Me, and am pretty sure others, know you're arrogant. And, know you're a bright boy. The thing is, is that your arrogance doesn't have you living in a fantasy and hallucinating an unrealistic sense of self, because it's not an insecure arrogance. You don't need to be noticed more than anyone of us lowly peasants. And, you are genuinely interested in others. It’s not all about you. Admitting your faults makes it easier to get along and for the two-headed monster not having to chase your ass down every day. *Phew* I needs a drinkie. Thanks, me Dude! Please share that drinkie with me, and let's toast in the name of arrogance! But hey, I don't think of you as "lowly peasants"! In fact I think very highly of the forum bunch.
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Post by Helmut83 on Jan 23, 2018 2:17:30 GMT
I think we all harbor those feelings of superiority to a certain degree, but as long as they are not universal and permanent, it could actually be accurate and healthy, in my opinion. We all have different strengths and we continue to grow and learn as long as we live, some more than others, and we need each other. Those who recognize this live well and thrive in the give and take of community with other people. But one person can be superior in terms of patience and kindness and know it, another in terms of physical beauty, another in terms of intelligence or courage. I think it's when a person has a permanent and universal sense of superiority that it truly becomes a problem. Thanks for your words, eloneen . What your test results say is true, you are a mediator. And I totally agree with what you said. As you say, my feelings of superiority are far from permanent. They exist a bit regarding the circumstance: if we are talking about something I think I'm good at, then I feel a bit of those feelings because I have a high esteem of myself doing those things. But lots of times I even feel inferior when I compare myself to others. If we are talking about playing football or dancing, I really feel inferior, and it would be stupid and completely unrealistic of me to feel superior in those aspects because I know I suck. But I'm not someone who would fake sucking at things I'm good at just for the sake of being falsely humble, and that could count as arrogance. So yeah, I don't think I have that permanent and universal sense of superiority you are talking about. People like that are unsufferable, and I don't think anyone has ever dismissed me or gotten tired of me because of that.
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Post by BSJ on Jan 23, 2018 2:18:39 GMT
To arrogance! Hip, hip, hurray! Slap me five, keep me alive! I'm teasing you!
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Post by Helmut83 on Jan 23, 2018 2:22:17 GMT
To arrogance! Hip, hip, hurray! Slap me five, keep me alive! I'm teasing you! What are you saying, lowly peasant? You are so low I can't hear you from these heights!
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Post by BSJ on Jan 23, 2018 2:25:08 GMT
To arrogance! Hip, hip, hurray! Slap me five, keep me alive! I'm teasing you! What are you saying, lowly peasant? You are so low I can' hear you from these heights!
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Post by eloneen on Jan 23, 2018 2:27:14 GMT
I think what helps is if when we are operating from one of our strengths, that we keep in mind our own relative weaknesses and others' relative strengths. That way we don't end up getting a big head about those areas where we are strong.
My parents used to tell us that cockiness and jealousy were pointless and a waste of time, because there would always be someone you could compare yourself to as better and worse than you at almost any aspect in life. Don't stay in that place long. Just spend your time making yourself the best that you can be. Not easy to do, but wise.
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Post by Helmut83 on Jan 23, 2018 2:31:56 GMT
What are you saying, lowly peasant? You are so low I can' hear you from these heights! ...you said that the Two Headed Monster didn't need to be chasing my ass all the time, and about 5 minutes later... P.S.: wow, my stars went all black! I look badass now! Having an avatar that looks so good is not helping my superiority feelings.
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Post by eloneen on Jan 23, 2018 2:33:17 GMT
Helmut83 ...and that is your glorious 6000th post, my dear friend!!!
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Post by Helmut83 on Jan 23, 2018 2:35:35 GMT
It is indeed! I thought it changed in 5,000, then 10,000 and so. 6,000 is a bit of aa strange number to have as a landmark but what the hell, the black stars are welcome!
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Post by babyzoomer on Jan 23, 2018 7:30:20 GMT
I'm Sagittarius! (Perhaps I took the wrong test?)
OK you got me I'm ISTJ-T but I've absolutely no idea what that means...
My parents raised me to be C of E....
Day two off the booze & I'm finding it hard to concentrate; it took me 3 tries just to spell concentrate!
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Post by eloneen on Jan 23, 2018 11:39:41 GMT
The problem is that in my case I'm not sure it's insecurity, I'm afraid it's plain and simple feeling superior at times (not to everyone, of course, but to many). Not ego, just thinking you are more intelligent. I know that by saying this I'm commiting sincericide and making myself hatable because who likes arrogant people? But at least I'm being totally honest and admitting a failure that not many would dare to admit and that I know I have to address. I think we all harbor those feelings of superiority to a certain degree, but as long as they are not universal and permanent, it could actually be accurate and healthy, in my opinion. We all have different strengths and we continue to grow and learn as long as we live, some more than others, and we need each other. Those who recognize this live well and thrive in the give and take of community with other people. But one person can be superior in terms of patience and kindness and know it, another in terms of physical beauty, another in terms of intelligence or courage. I think it's when a person has a permanent and universal sense of superiority that it truly becomes a problem. Of course I would also add that any ideas of superiority ascribed to groups of people (race, ethnicity, etc.) would also be extremely problematic!
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